For quite a few years now, the self development industry has been doing what it can to make people realise that they are not victims – to allow them to see that they have an effect on the world. But, in recent decades, so many people are conditioned to see themselves as victims.
This is mainly due to what is often referred to as’identity politics’, and this is where just about everybody is put into two groups. Someone is then either going to be an oppressed victim or they’ll be an oppressive perpetrator.
The Death of the Individual Not only will this stop someone from having the ability to see other people as individuals, it will also prevent them from being able to view themselves as someone.
On the plus side, seeing the world this manner will stop this individual from having to use their brain as much.
A New Meaning
So, though having a victim mentality was generally viewed as something negative thanks in part to the self development business, it’s become something that’s often seen as something positive thanks to conditioning from the education system and the mainstream press.
Some people would say that this is the result of’Cultural Marxism’, but, whatever the cause is, it’s clear that certain people are often encouraged to view themselves as victims in today’s world. When someone has a victim mentality, they can see themselves as being a human being. The reason why they will feel superior to other people is they are going to feel that – unlike the men and women that are oppressing people – they’re not’oppressing’ anyone.
They are not going to believe that certain men and women are empowered human beings who don’t need to oppress anybody to fulfil their needs; this is not a dynamic that will exist in their mind. The men and women who are empowered are then likely to be thrown into the same box as the people who do oppress others, and these people will be immoral in contrast.
A Number of Benefits
This doesn’t mean that their needs won’t be met, though, and this is because their victim status will probably allow them to get things without needing to give anything in return. Being a victim is then likely to allow them to experience control in an underhand way.
They won’t need to work for anything; they will be entitled to have just about anything they need from the men and women who are supposedly holding them back. It will be as if an invisible force is different, and that this force is controlling every part of their life.
A Quantity of Similarities
However, no matter whether someone has bought into identity politics or just feels like a victim, they’re unlikely believe they’ve much an effect on their life. Consequently, it will likely be normal for them to feel helpless, helpless, frustrated and angry, among other things.
They may be accustomed to spending time with those that are happy to walk and to completely disregard their needs. If they’re in a relationship, they may be with somebody who physically abuses themand, if they are not, they may have been with people like this previously.
When it comes to their career – that is if they have one – they might have a job that is deeply unfulfilling. Yet, although they do drains them, it could be seen as the only option that is available to them.
If they’re on the other side of the fence, so to speak, and have not been able to have a job, they could think that the world is trying to hold them back. Something out there is then not permitting them to get ahead.
One is then likely to be nothing more than an observer of their reality, meaning that they won’t play a part in how they experience life. They will be one person who shows up in every experience that they have, but this will not matter.
Their thoughts, feelings and what they think about the world and themselves, along with their behavior, will be irrelevant. And what is going to validate this outlook is that they are likely to spend time with people who experience life in a similar manner.
The reason someone like this believes they don’t have an effect on their reality is probably due to the fact that they are out of touch with their inner world and are too attached to their mind. If they were able to detach from their mind and to get in touch with what is occurring within them, they may be able to see how their outside world is mirroring back what is taking place in their internal world.
It is then not they are merely an observer of their reality; they are actually playing a big part in the way they experience life. Bearing this in mind, they’re not being victimised by others, they are being victimised by themselves.
Even though it’s not going to be empowering for them to experience life this manner, it is very likely to be what feels safe at a deeper level. And, till they become aware of why this is and do something about it, their life will most likely stay the same.
If they were to look back in their childhood years, they may that is wasn’t safe for them to express themselves. This would have caused them to associate staying small with being secure and it would have set them up to feel comfortable with being treated poorly.
In regards to letting go of a victim mentality, an individual might want to reach out for external support. This is something which can be provided by the aid of a therapist or a healer.